Grief is a strange thing. We expect sadness at the loss of a loved one, but we often have other emotions to deal with as well. 
    Anger is one emotion that is unexpected, but common. We get angry at the dead person for leaving us or we get angry with ourselves because we believe that we are in some way responsible for someone's death. Maybe if we visited her at the nursing home more, she wouldn't have died. Maybe if we tried harder to help him with his drinking problem, he would still be alive. Months later, we realize that our anger wasn't justified, and we don't know how it happened. 
    Pity is another emotion that often happens during grief. We pity the person who died for not living a longer, happier life. We pity his family who has lost him. We pity ourselves for loosing a friend or relative. This also is something that seems strange a few months down the road. 
    At least we can understand why the shock of a death can cause our emotions to get a little crazy. What we often can't understand is the way highly advanced spiritual people treat death. They often don't seem to grieve at all. Or they seem to grieve for some friends and relatives, but not for others. It all seems rather odd. One of the statements attributed to Jesus in the Bible that shocks many Christians is when he said, “Let the dead bury the dead.” It sounds as if he had no sympathy for others, but that is not true. 
    Very spiritual people often don't grieve at the death of the physical body because it is simply not important to them. If they know that the dead friend or relative took the time to develop his spiritual side while alive so that he survived death spiritually then, to the spiritual person, there is nothing to mourn. On the other hand, they may feel sadness when a friend who did not develop spiritually dies and is truly dead because his immortal soul will go to the Worlds of Light while that person is left behind.